When Grief Feels Too Heavy, get under it…….
Ever experienced the soothing comfort of a weighted blanket? The way they hold you. The way they allow you to just let go. To take some time to just be.
Made me think of grief.
We live in a world of constant go and expectation. A world in which busy-ness and growth and moving forward are presented as things we should prioritise. As the things that matter most.
When we’re grieving, those around us seem to be checking their imaginary clocks. Aren’t we over it yet? Shouldn’t we be getting back out there? We’re not (Gods forbid!) wallowing are we?
The world expects us to perform, to be our old selves. We know our old selves died with our person. A new self is coming; terrifyingly, reluctantly, against all our heart-felt wishes, but it needs time. We need time.
On the days when grief is too heavy to carry, put it down. Put it down and slither yourself under it. Some days the weight of grief just needs to be felt by our entire body. Some days we just need to lean into all that it is. We give you the permission to, when you need to, get under it.